Why Do We Like Extreme Kinks: Understanding Fear Play and CNC

There's a lot of noise and misinformation about Fear Play and CNC that floats around on the Internet. From the standpoint of somebody who doesn't get aroused by these types of activities, it's understandable to think that even the idea of them should be met with skepticism. There's a lot of noise and misinformation about Fear Play and CNC that floats around on the Internet. From the standpoint of somebody who doesn't get aroused by these types of activities, it's understandable to think that even the idea of them should be met with skepticism.

Scene Negotiation: Setting Boundaries and Safe Words

Before a CNC scene takes place, there is LOTS of negotiation between the parties who will be involved in the scene. This means a complete breakdown of what is and is not allowed during the scene as well as how safe words will be employed should they become necessary.

Why Do People Like CNC and Fear Play?

For a long time, this sort of behavior, in fact any sort of kinky behavior, was seen as a psychological disorder. More recent research and studies have concluded that those who practice kinky behaviors are not sexually deviant. In fact, the DSM-5 states explicitly that those who practice in kink and BDSM are not deviant.

CNC and Fear Play as Controlled Horror: Why It's Fun

Why do people like horror movies and scary books? Why do people go on haunted hayrides and visit haunted houses during Spooky Season? Because being afraid is fun, and in all those cases, you get to be afraid in a safe space.

All those basic things are incorporated into CNC play. It's safe, it's negotiated, and the primary descriptor of it is consensual. It can be fun, it can be frightening, but it is always meant to be safe.