When the Rules No Longer Work: Refreshing Your Kink After Burnout

Life does not always go the way we want it to and there are times when it seems to actively be doing its best to undermine everything we're trying to build. When the burdens of life outside of a dynamic begin to put pressure on those within the dynamic, burnout can follow soon after.

When Burnout Affects Your D/s Dynamic

We cannot be expected to be kinky all day every day. We have to go out into the world and live lives where we don't discuss the things that turn us on while we're at the water cooler at work.

How to Reconnect by Bringing Kink Into Daily Life

As mentioned above, the idea of adding some kink into daily life can be a good stepping stone to getting back to where you want to be. Giving a submissive daily chores is one way to help increase the sense of dynamic even when there isn't one available to be had.

Reaffirm the Dynamic

This is actually something you can do every six to twelve months and may help keep the dynamic feeling fresh. My partner and I use a contract together that we went through and agreed on point by point.

Make Time for Kink

As we get older, the very idea of spontaneity becomes seemingly laughable. Life has too many responsibilities for anything to be really spontaneous so it's important that we take the time to schedule the things we want to do.

Winding Down

We are all struggling in some way or another to find time to fit in all the things we want to do. Let's not forget that our dynamic and our partners are important parts of our lives that deserve our attention.