Dom talk: How to set up rewards for your sub with Obedience
This guest article was written by The_Branded on Fetlife originally titled “Making The Most Of Obedience p.3”
This is the third installment of hints and tips to make the most out of the Obedience App and keep your partner engaged!
You can also read the two previous installments here:
Again, I will refer to this as Dom and Sub, just for ease, with the Dom being the controller of the app and the sub receiving the tasks, but this can work in many, many relationship styles
Why and how to update your sub’s rewards
Once you’ve set up rewards and tasks that work for your sub, it’s extremely easy to just forget all about it and leave things as they are.
I like to change the rewards or add to the rewards every couple of weeks or so. The main rewards will usually stay, but I’ll change up some of the smaller rewards, potentially change the focus of one a bit, add a bit of a silly one, or delete rewards they’ve not been interested in.
For example, “Go Stuffie Shopping” might be a reward for a while, but perhaps after it’s been bought once or twice it could be changed to “Go Toy Shopping” or “Go Clothes Shopping” depending on what a good driver is for your sub.
Interaction is KEY in this app! Not just getting them to tick off their tasks but checking back at their rewards. It keeps the dopamine flowing and encourages task completion.
Create a rewards sale for your sub
This also ties into keeping them interested. Sometimes I like to have a “Flash Sale” where I’ll discount a bunch of rewards and then text my sub letting them know they have got a 24-hour sale.
This serves two purposes. First, it keeps up the interaction and lets them get a bit of a hit by buying something maybe they can’t yet afford. Second, somewhat sneakily… it gets them to spend their hard-earned points! Meaning that they might have to work harder/longer to save up for some of the big prizes!
Just make sure you remember to set the prices back after your sale period!
Create weekly tasks for your sub on Obedience
When setting a weekly task, decide whether it’s something they can complete any time during a week (so at least once within every 7 days) OR whether it needs to be completed on or by a specific day.
This can be particularly helpful if they have to do certain things on certain days such as banking or doing their accounts. These can be set to be marked off every Monday AND Friday for example.
Alternatively, my partner has a weekly task that needs to be completed WITHIN the week. Our app week runs from Wednesday to Tuesday and as long as they complete the task once within that period, it counts, regardless of when they tick it off.
If you have multiple weekly tasks, try and make them end on different days. Again this promotes interaction but also gives them more chance to succeed!
How to carry out your sub's rewards and punishments
This may seem pretty obvious, but there is no point in your sub working for rewards OR giving them punishments and then not carrying them out. It makes the app worthless.
Don’t set too many rewards that you can’t easily grant them.
It’s fine if you have a couple that might need time or planning. Offering them a trip out or a particular play scene. But if they redeem it make sure you start to at least communicate about the plans ASAP so they know it’s going to happen.
The same with punishments.
If over a month they rock up 50 spanks… make sure you find time to deal out those 50 spanks!
There’s no threat to them for failing their tasks if they don’t get punishments!
It also stops them from racking up too many. If you fail to pick up punishments for too long you could end up owing them 200 spanks! Which, although it might sound fun for some, might also be overwhelming or unfair and unreasonable for some too!
This is all I've got for now, but if I think of any more I'll add them or write a new post if there is enough of them!
Try out this helpful community advice. Update your sub’s rewards, tasks, and punishments by logging in or signing up to Obedience App.
