Best Habit Tracking Templates Made by Obedience Users
A few weeks ago, we released a new feature in the Obedience app—an option to export your habits, rewards, and punishments as a template that other users can import. This feature aims to keep the entry threshold for using the Obedience app as low as possible and allow our community to support each other in their journeys to work on their dynamics. We have written about it previously in our newsletters, and you can find the "how to" on our Instagram or in the video clip below.
In the same spirit, in April 2024, we organized a contest for our users, giving everyone a chance to contribute and make a difference. We asked about their experiences using the Obedience app within their specific dynamics, about tips and lessons they wanted to share with the rest of the community and to provide a template link to their setup in our app.
First, the Obedience team picked ten amazing templates and left the choice of the top three to our community. Below, you can find the winning templates with descriptions and links as well as read about what other users find helpful in their user experience with the Obedience app.
Improve Your Obedience Experience with Lessons From The Kink Community
To help you optimize your Obedience use, we summarised the advice from all contestants so that you can learn from their experiences and mistakes.
1. Keep Your App Setup Simple and Achievable
When managing your daily life, especially with neurodivergence, which often overlaps with being kinky, it is best to keep things simple. Recognize what you can realistically handle each day. Start small: pick a few daily, weekly, and monthly tasks.
Put some thought into matching them with meaningful rewards. This makes each task feel important, and every reward is a little celebration. You can slowly add more fun and challenging tasks as you get the hang of your “starter” tasks. According to the Obedience app veterans, the tricky bit is getting started - but the more you use the app, the more straightforward it will become.
2. Be Mindful When Creating New Tasks
Thinking about how you structure the daily tasks for the submissive within the dynamic can make or break the benefits of using the Obedience app. You have already established what is achievable on a typical day. Also, think about when the tasks must be completed—aiming for before midnight avoids confusion.
Further, contestants suggested organizing tasks and the consequences of missing them or misbehavior by seriousness. A small mistake? That’s a "level one" issue—no big deal. But if something keeps happening, that’s "level two" and might need a firmer approach. You can use the same approach when setting the number of points the sub will receive for each task and how many are needed to buy rewards. It helps to keep the whole experience feeling balanced and fair.
3. Use Obedience for Everything Related to Your BDSM Dynamic
Putting all your agreements, rules, tasks, and rewards in one place is a game-changer. No more scattered papers or switching between apps. It makes it so much easier to keep track of everything. This way, you can always see how you’re doing and adjust things on the fly.
4. Keep Updating Your Obedience App Setup
It is okay to change your routine up every once in a while. If things start to feel too easy or you forget to check your tasks off, it’s time to refresh. Update your habits to meet new challenges or changes in your life. Keeping your setup evolving with you keeps it useful and keeps you engaged.
5. Get Inspired to Build a Detailed BDSM Routine
When you start to build up to more detailed routines slowly, you will need inspiration. Fellow Obedience users suggest taking a dive into the contents of our blog and learning from other after joining the Obedience Discord server. Our community server is great for swapping stories and tips, helping you find the best way to use your app. Getting ideas from others can spark your creativity and help you make your routine even better!
Finding Inspiration for Your BDSM Habits
Of course, those templates can be adjusted and personalized after you import them. On our Facebook and Instagram pages, you can find over 50 ideas for various habits, rewards, and punishments that might inspire you to make those templates yours. However, if you find brainstorming with other kinksters more useful - feel free to join the Obedience Discord server with the button below.
You can also find some tips and tricks to maximizing the potential of our app in multiple articles available on our blog. We especially recommend checking out our series on making the most out of Obedience: “How to use a point system and tasks to discipline your submissive”, “Rewarding good behavior”, and “How to set up rewards for your sub with Obedience”.
Winning Obedience Templates
Obedience Community Template for Daily Routines
This template includes daily habits of getting sufficient sleep, maintaining household cleanliness, eating properly, practicing good hygiene, regular exercise with pet care, and engaging in creative activities. It reinforces healthy habits and regular routines, which can support the submissive partner’s personal growth and well-being while also enriching the relationship dynamic.
The setup helps to foster a positive and nurturing environment, emphasizing the importance of self-care and responsibility, which are rewarded with points. However, no punishments are assigned automatically if the habit is not completed. It is up to the Dom(me) to give out punishments depending on the type of misbehavior and one of three punishments matching its severity. Rewards focus on the partners spending quality time together.
Habits:
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Rewards:
Movie night (5p.) - at home with snacks
Boba (10p.) - any boba smoothie
10USD for a special occasion (15p.)- Daddy will put 10USD in savings for a fun night
Get out of jail free (20p.) - removing one punishment
SPA day (20p.) - with D
Hairstyle (25p.) - Daddy will learn a new hairstyle to do on sub's hair
New toy (25p.) - new toy or a stuffie for max. 20USD
Daddy's makeup (30p.) - sub can do Daddy's makeup
Music in a car - sub's choices for 1h
Mall trip (55p.) - spending budget of 50USD
Punishments:
Level 1 - A single behaviour requiring correction
Body writing - with photo proof
Choking - will not release until given an apology
Hair pulling
No games
No touch day
Spanking with a paddle
Level 2 - Repetitive behaviour
Early bedtime - 10pm instead of midnight
Grounding - sitting in a room alone thinking about what they did
Lines
No talking
Out of your comfort zone
Read Twitter reposts - read sub's 5 most recent Twitter reposts out loud in their entirety
Soap in mouth
Tied up with a vibrator
Level 3 - Straight to jail
Cold shower
Essay reflecting on your actions - 500 words on how sub's actions were wrong + plan of altering behaviour
Forced little day
No underwear all day
Public humiliation
Serving Daddy's need for a day - tending to D's all needs and requests
Wear a plug all day
Obedience Community Template for Healthy Lifestyle with Spice
This winning Obedience user template is designed for a submissive who thrives under a regimented schedule with clear expectations and rewards. The activities range from health-focused habits to ones encouraging artistic expression and professional growth. The personal task of sending a photo to the dominant partner helps nourish intimacy as well as a level of trust and openness within the dynamic.
The potential benefits for the submissive include improved physical health through better nutrition, exercise, hydration, and mental and emotional benefits from regular sleep patterns and creative expression. For their dynamic, these habits foster a sense of care, structure, and accountability, with the submissive being encouraged and rewarded for their diligence and obedience.
Rewards for maintaining these habits range from meals and pampering to meaningful items like a specific plushie or body art, enhancing the submissive's motivation. Being able to choose a punishment to be omitted after using the "Get Out of Jail Free" reward also gives the submissive a sense of control within the dynamic.
Punishments are aligned with the dynamic's nature, varying from physical acts like spanking or feet stimulation to restrictions such as no phone use, which serve as reminders of the power exchange and boundaries within the relationship.
Habits:
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Rewards:
Cemetery visit (20p.)
Gaming session (20p.) - board games, card games or console, sub's choice of game and location
Movie night together (20p.) - out or at home, TV or film
National Park walk together (20p.)
Picnic in a park (25p.) - blanket, cheese platter, sandwiches, drinks
Shibari Vanilla (25p.) - just tying, sub's location of choice
Cheat day (35p.) - mark all habits/rules as completed without having to do them
Cunnilingus (35p.) - sub's receives head and gets fingered until orgasm
Massage (35p.) - soft and sensual, no bruises/tickling, 30min
Partial suspension (35p.)
Sex Slave (35p.) - for a day
Shabiri (40p.)- tie and surprise while the sub is suspended, sub's location of choice
Date night Daddy controlled (40p.) - D chooses everything, protocol-free
Date night sub-controlled (40p.) - sub picks the activity and location
Sensory deprivation (40p.) - sub gets blindfolded and set out for people to enjoy
Shower sex (40p.)
DP with a toy (45p.) - sub chooses a toy and a hole for double-penetration
Face sitting (45p.) - sub uses D's face for pleasure
Get out of jail free (50p.) - removing one punishment of sub's choice
Overnight stay (60p.)
Punishments:
Commando - Go commando in public, photo proof
No sugary snacks - for 24h
Spanking without penetration
Sexy outfit
Begging to cum
Begging to stop cumming
Begging for penetration
Cane/Ruler on bottom of the feet
Degradation
100 lines
Spanking until sub's begs to stop
Tickling - held down, for 30sek
Spanking with penetration - minimum 5 spanks
Shower Time - serve D in the shower
Sit on Lap naked - sit on D's lap while they outline what they will do to you, min. 2min
Face slaping
Listen to being praised - 5min, not allowed to deny etc
Massage D while naked - 30min unless told to stop sooner
Pleasure D with hands only - 5min
Stand naked in front of a mirror - forced to watch by a hand on your throat, min. 90sec
Forced facefuck/deepthroat - 2min
Blowjob practice - doesn't count towards reewards, 10min
Cold shower -5sec
Edging
Squats - 10 repeats, must be done within 24h of earning or it doesn't count
Stack and unpack the dishwasher
Walk - 10min
Walk pup around the block - has to be completed within 3 days of earning or it doesn't count
Watch others play while tied up - 10min
Watch others play while not tied up - 5min
Obedience Community Template for Self-Improvement
This setup includes tasks and rewards (or penalties) that encourage the submissive partner to engage in self-care, maintain good hygiene, complete household chores, manage their meals and water intake, work on mental health, and avoid acting out. The punishments for missing the habits are intense and mostly pain-related.
This setup helps the submissive partner create a positive, structured environment where both the sub and the dynamic can thrive. Firstly, it covers the maintenance of physical health as well as mental and emotional well-being. By ensuring the basic needs are taken care of, the partners have the space and mental capacity to focus on the relationship - which is not undermined by bratty behavior. On that note, not all brats are the same - so please consider why your submissive ‘misbehaves’ as it might not harm your dynamic at all.
Habits:
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Rewards:
Dinner (30p.)- place of sub's choice
Pamper Time (40p.)- Daddy must do pamper the sub in a way of sub's choice
Get Out of Jail Free - sub chooses one punishment do be deducted from the next scene, can be used max 3x/week
Online Purchase (60p.)
Haircut (75p.)- 45-60USD
Get lashes done (80p.)
BPD Bunny - a specified plushie
Piercing or Manicure (100p.)
Tattoo (500p.) - max. for 500USD
Punishments:
Something out of your comfort zone (Dom's choice)
Brest play (bruising)
Cum denial/Edging
Daddy creates a scene (within limits)
Feet stimulation (min. 5-10min)
No phone (for 1h)
Over-the-knee spanking (5 times)
Overstimulation
Spanking
