What is a brat: another face of the submissive BDSM roles
For some, submission can be a lifestyle; for others, submission can be something that happens within the safety of a specific scene. But what about those who want spice to their submissive roles? Welcome to the world of the brat!
Within BDSM, submission can come in many shapes and forms depending on the chosen scene and dynamics between those partaking in a Dominant/submissive relationship. The usual understanding is that the submissive follows the rules the Dominant sets.
However, rules are supposed to be broken for a specific type of submissive. In the BDSM scene, these naughty submissives are what are typically known as brats.
In this article, obedience will take you through the role of a brat within the D/s relationship, exploring what makes a brat and how to explore a brat kink.
What is a Brat?
So, what is a brat within the BDSM community? A brat is commonly referred to as a submissive who prefers to be mischievous, naughty, and cheeky with their partner, from being flirty or talking back when told what to do or refusing to follow orders to receive attention or punishments.
For a brat, the rules are something to be broken. This can either be as a part of their everyday identity or as part of a pre-discussed scene.
The following section will discuss some specific characteristics of brats, types, and ways they may act out.
What makes a Brat?
Types of Brat
When we usually talk about brats within BDSM, it tends to be linked to DD/LG play (Daddy Dom/little girl), and although there is some overlap, this isn't the only type of brat a submissive may identify as.
The main types of brats include:
Princess Brats: These enjoy demanding and getting exactly what they want when they want. In these instances, you may like going past your limits.
Ageplay Brat: This is your usual DD/LG play but with a batty twist, often acting as a child, a middle, or a teen brat.
A Witty Brat is the one who likes to talk back to their Dom, especially when given an order.
A Strong Personality Brat: These are the ones who enjoy the struggle and often refuse to follow orders. They are constantly fighting back with their Dom.
Ways to act out as a brat
So now you know what type of brat you are, how do you act out? As a naughty brat, a brat must not hit or punish their dom, so you don't upset the power dynamic. But you may find that a brat acts out verbally by talking back. Or even physically by refusing to follow orders given by their Dom.
Other ways they may act out as a brat is:
Starting non-serious fights
Humiliating their dominant
Having a temper tantrum
Swearing or sticking out their tongue
Both are Dominant when they are busy
Speaking when they shouldn't
Hiding/running away
Why do people act like brats?
The reasons for acting like a brat can be motivated differently for everyone. It is essential to understand that not every brat acts out for punishment alone. Some may act out specifically for any or all of the below reasons:
Attention - wanting their Dom's attention focused on them and them alone.
Trust - for others, it could be because they are finally in a safe environment where they know they can act like brats without receiving negative reactions.
Punishment - Many even want to be brats because they enjoy receiving punishment from their Doms. Acting out may be a way to heighten the experience and receive harsher punishments than usual.
Tamed: Others may not care for the punishment itself but want to act as a brat because they enjoy being tamed/controlled by their Dom. Gaining pleasure in the control exerted over them.
The Struggle: And lastly, a brat may be motivated to act like one because they enjoy the physical, mental, and emotional struggle of their act against their Dom.
Understanding what motivates a brat allows you to give them better what they want if you are the Dominant in a D/s relationship. It can allow you to exert consistency, control, and patience and better communicate with them on what they want and need to know how to set the scene.
How to explore a Brat kink?
So now you know what a brat is and want to introduce this dynamic into your D/s dynamics. But how do you do this? In this section, Obedience has provided tips for safely exploring a brat kink.
Consent and Communication
Before engaging in brat play, ensuring that you and your partner are interested in the dynamic is key for a healthy D/s dynamic. This includes discussing whether you would be interested in this type of play.
Communication is key; setting out the limits of what the brat can and can't do (this ensures that the play stays sexy instead of crossing into the realm of annoying or rude) should happen before any brat play occurs.
Remember to ask questions about what your brat wants, their punishments, and what outcomes they want from the experience. As a brat, talk to your Dominant about where the limits are. Is there anything specific they are uncomfortable doing or even you saying within a scene?
Go Slow and Read the Room
Learning to read the room and your partners' comfort levels is crucial as you get used to the dynamics. Slowly ease into back talk and work out where your boundaries are for how many brats play you and your partner both enjoy. Remember, there is a fine line between acting out in a fun way and being rude or making your partner uncomfortable.
Be Safe and use safewords.
Like with any BDSM relationship, being safe is fundamental to a healthy brat/brat-tamer relationship. No matter what punishments you choose to enact, always ensure you adhere to the correct ways to do them.
As well as this, making sure that you both have a safeword for if someone oversteps a boundary or you feel that it has no longer become fun is a necessity. The Dominant and the submissive should have a safeword that is respected and immediately adhered to so the scene will stop immediately.
Types of punishments to dish out
So, how do you punish a naughty brat? Well, there are some punishments that you can dole out, including:
Spanking
Orgasm Denial
Forced Silence
Sitting on a chair/step
Forced orgasm
Bondage
Tickling
Tying them up
These are punishments that can deny your brat from getting what they want: the attention of their dominant.
Get creative
Whether you're the brat looking for new ways to act out or the brat tamer looking for new ways to punish or get your brat to act in line with your rules, it's time to get creative; the Obedience app can help you explore this dynamic and have Dominants help their submissives build good habits in their life.
If you're a brat who has been asked to eat your greens, why not snap a cheeky pic of you eating chocolate? Or if you're a tamer, set your brat punishments even when you're not in the room with them?
Or why not offer your brat the chance to act out or speak back if they earn so many points by obeying your tasks on the Obeduence app?
The aim of these interactions should be fin and can be flirty, so being creative allows you to add new elements as you ease into becoming a certified brat!
Conclusion
Exploring a brat kink can add a new element of play to your D/s relationship, allowing you to explore new aspects of your relationship and get creative with your punishments as you ‘punish’ or ‘tame’ your brat.
Like with all BDSM, it is a way to try new experiences and get creative. As you get more comfortable enjoying a Brat/tamer lifestyle, you may find new ways to act out and set punishments. You can also look at new incentives or rewards to help tame your brat. On the Obedience app, why not offer your brat the chance to act out as a reward?
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